Hiya Rebekah!
Welcome to planDisney! My friend, I'm sorry that what could be such a magical day is being shadowed by worry and nervousness. I have a little one who struggles with anxiety and panics in crowds so I understand a little bit of your struggle. I have gotten pretty good at avoiding difficult situations like crowds and longer queue waits so that we can have a pleasant experience as a family.
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I want to leave you with some tips that help me. I love the nighttime spectaculars but the crowds can be tough. During the Magic Kingdom Park showing of
Happily Ever After the space in front of Cinderella Castle can be very hard for my family to handle. As a result, we enjoy the fireworks from Frontierland near
Tiana's Bayou Adventure. The projections are not seen but the fireworks are still beautiful and the music is played in this area for guests to enjoy. I also love how I can let my kids dance in place and breathe during what is normally a very crowded experience. Another thing I like to do is watch any parade from this area as well, but be on time as the parade starts here and then moves through the Park and then to Main Street, U.S.A. I also want to reassure you that many of the queues in Walt Disney World Resort have interactive or interesting features that help make the time pass a bit. However, a toddler's patience can be so little and anxiety does not help so consider having a snack or a distraction ready to go just in case. The
Play Disney Parks app is a great interactive way to distract anyone and have fun while waiting.
I like to avoid lines by using Lightning Lane Multi Pass. On my last trip I found that by using
Lightning Lane Multi Pass, I kept my wait time to less than 15 minutes on most rides. I did have to pay for it but it was especially worth it for my family at Magic Kingdom Park and Disney's Hollywood Studios.
I also recommend not rope dropping in the morning as there is a large crowd waiting to enter the Park. It goes quickly but I get anxious with my little ones in that intense crowd. I now like to visit shortly after opening to give time for that large crowd to disperse. Wait times are still low in the mornings before 11 am. I then take a break at 11 am to cool off and reset for the day.
I hope this helps and you have a wonderful time. You can do it Rebekah as you are the magic!
Happy Planning!
-Nimmy