The
Yachtsman Steakhouse and the
Hoop Dee Doo Revue are both wonderful Disney Dining experiences, but they are about as different as different gets.
The Yachtsman is one of Disney's signature dining experiences, with an elegant atmosphere, fine wines, and gourmet food. There is a business casual dress code (explained in the above link). Children are certainly welcome here, but they will need to be on their best behavior. Particularly as the hour grows later, you'll find couples here on their Disney date night, and even business groups who are there for conventions at the Yacht Club business center.
The Hoop Dee Doo Revue is a rollicking dinner show, with lots of hooting and hollering and audience participation. Food is chicken and ribs served family style (vegetarian options are available on request) with lots of lovely strawberry shortcake for dessert. There isn't the tightest of plots to the show, but there are many corny jokes and sing-along songs. We first started going to the HDDR when my younger girls were four. They LOVED it and we've been back every year since then.
So, if you're looking to please the adult palates, go for the Yachtsman. If you want fun for the whole family, I would definitely choose the Hoop Dee Doo Revue.