Welcome aboard, Karen! I bet you are getting very excited to set sail with your family on your very first cruise with Disney! I promise that you are in for all sorts of magic and surprises during your sailing!
Since I don't know exactly which sailing and itinerary you'll be on, I can't give you specific dates for things like Pirate Night and other activities. Even without that information though, I would recommend choosing one of the last two nights for your
Adult Exclusive Dining reservation. Disney Cruise Line features
Rotational Dining. Guests rotate through all three main dining restaurants throughout the course of their sailing. So, by the time your fourth night comes around, you'll have experienced all three of the fantastic main dining restaurants and you'll be headed back to one of them again, so you won't miss a thing if you sneak off for adult time.
Choosing a reservation at Palo for nights four or five ensures that you won't miss one of the fun main dining spots with the family, and you'll still get to experience the romantic atmosphere of this beautiful adults-only restaurant. Palo is my favorite, so if you do go there, be sure to have the chocolate souffle for me! Yum! I love dining there on our final night of the cruise as it's such a nice way to end what has been an amazing sailing experience!
Enjoy the rest of this time as you continue to plan your cruise, Karen. Please let me know if I can help with anything else before you set sail!