Debra,
A quick follow up to our last exchange. When you write me back with information based on my last reply, break the questions out into a few different e-mails, by topic. That way I can write more detailed answers to each topic without running out of room in the reply.
As to special experiences for your 40th anniversary, there are a lot, and I would love to make some suggestions, if you need them. Some cost extra, but many do not, so don't let the idea give you sticker shock. It is not so much about paying for extra activities, but for finding those special moments that will make your memories even better than they were going to be.
So let me know what you guys like to do together, and I will be glad to make suggestions, both added cost ones as well as ones that are completely free.
Have a magical vacation!