Howdy Janet!
I absolutely understand your question!! My currently 4 and 6 year olds are the same way. While they do enjoy their meals, they are typically far more interested in what mommy and daddy have ordered.
You can upgrade your daughter to the adult Dining Plan. However (and this is a BIG however.) If you are using the
2013 Magic Your Way Package, you will have to upgrade her Theme Park tickets as well. You will essentially have to change her age to 10.
If, however, you have Annual Passes or are purchasing your Theme Park tickets separately, you are able to upgrade her Dining Plan only.
I would suggest that you contact Disney Resort Hotel Reservations at 407-939-1936 to see what your best options are for your vacation. You might also call Disney Dining at 407-WDW-DINE (407-939-3463).
I don't know if you have made all of your dining reservations as of yet, but another option might be to consider eating at some of the restaurants that offer buffets so that your daughter will have a variety of options. You might also consider ordering an additional item for her to supplement her meal. You can preview the menus where you will be dining and consider all of your options.
I see you will be at Walt Disney World in December. December is such a wonderful time of year to be at Disney World. You typically have great weather and you always have the magic of Disney and beautiful holiday decorations and celebrations.
Thanks so much for your question and please let me know if you need any further information. Have a magical day!!