Howdy, Elizabeth, and welcome to the Disney Parks Moms Panel! Sounds like your family has a great adventure in the works! Let's help you make those plans.
One perk of staying in a Walt Disney World Resort hotel is the ability to make
FastPass+ selections up to 60 days in advance. In your daughter's case, yes, she would be able to choose FastPass+ attractions for everyone included in her reservation at that 60-day mark. Since you're staying off-site, your FastPass+ selections would open 30 days in advance.
The best way to try and match up your FastPass+ attractions, Elizabeth, is to make sure you're linked to your daughter's
My Disney Experience account through the Friends & Family list. When you reach the 30-day mark, your daughter can go into her FastPass+ selections and select "Add Friends & Family" to each one. If they're available, she can then add you to her existing selection, rather than you having to make one on your own.
If you find that some of your daughter's FastPass+ selections have limited availability, you can always try to select overlapping times. For example, if your daughter has a FastPass+ for a particular attraction at noon - 1 p.m., and you see one for 12:30 - 1:30, go ahead and grab it. Your entire family can then enter together anytime in that overlapping period between 12:30 and 1:00.
Elizabeth, one fun way to get the whole family together is
Character Dining. Our favorite is Chef Mickey's, but there are so many available, and it's a magical time for everyone!
I hope this helps your family plan a wonderful Walt Disney World vacation together, Elizabeth. Please come see us again if you have any more questions!
Kathy K.